Could *anyone* out there help me with my isolated yearnings?  I need

to find an honest but knowledgeable dominant in Rochester or,

failing that, Buffalo.



You have my sympathies.  I grew up in Rochester and couldn't wait to get

the hell out.  



You might want to get your hands on a copy of Domination Directory

International (DDI).  The best Dominants in the country advertise in it,

and you're pretty much assured that anyone listed will be genuine and give

you what you pay for.  DDI will drop any advertiser whom they get

complaints about.  You can find it in most major adult bookstores or order

it from the address below. 



Most professional Doms work in larger cities to have access to a larger

client base, but most smaller cities also have some good professionals. 

Finding them can be the problem, as you've found.  You might want to post

something to alt.sex.femdom and be very clear that you're looking for a

"professional".  Either the Ladies or the gentlemen there are often good

about making recommendations. 



Expect to pay from $150-$300 a session, and the higher end will most

likely be the more experienced "known" Ladies.  Be sure to ask lots of

questions about how many years of experience she has, what her

specialities are, and what sorts of equipment she has available.  If you

get vague answers, don't go for it.  Good professional Dominants are proud

of their skills, fetish wardrobes, and equipment.  Most professional

Dominants will not engage in any sort of sexual contact with you, so don't

be surprised if they get upset if you ask.  What they do is legal, and

most don't want to jepordize that.  Good luck. 



DDI

Strictly Speaking Publications.

Post Office Box 8006

Palm Springs, California  92263